so tonight didnt go so well with the kids. She showed up with the OM and 2 of my children flat out refused to go with her, my youngest D7 just wants her mom and doesnt care about OM and my oldest just wants to feel loved by his mom. Those 2 went with her.
There was mixed emotions from the kids, mommy told them she left cause her and i were always fighting. And if she came home would the kids like to have us fighting all the time. So the kids put it on me when they got home.
I calmly told them to think about the last time they heard mommy and daddy fight, they could think of a time other then lately about OM. I said so does that sound like the family life they remember and they agreed it wasnt. They also realized that we go to a family counselor and that there is counselors available for mommy's and daddy's to see so they can learn not to fight and to help move past the issues that cause the fights.
My kids are pretty smart, they realize alot of things. They have all told mom either in person or on the phone tonight that the love her and want to see her, but they want her home and they will not go with her and OM the next time. That they dont want to see him or be in his life. She is their mom and she needs to be home with them.
God bless their little hearts. How can I not hang in and fight for my marriage when my 4 children are fighting for their family. Its amazing how children can make us realize whats important in life.
So another day behind us and hopefully it will get easier as the next one arrives.
