I keep coming back here -- I keep telling myself that he doesn't want me, that he has moved on and that I don't want or need him - that I am worthy of someone better, someone who doesn't cheat and who will love me with all that he is. However, every day, or every other day I come back to this site in the hopes that someone on this site will provide the magic answer or the miracle that I am looking for, the something that will put my family back together. My h is totally not interested in R. He has moved on and I am alone. So, if someone has the magic answer, I'd be happy to hear it!!
M 41 H 41 D16 S 15 D 12 D 10 S 9 M 17 yrs OW Jan. 03 - May 04 S Dec. 03 - May 04 R May 04 - Apr 10 OW Apr 10 S Aug.10 ** H wants LS and D **
It is so normal to go in and out of these emotions. Just take some time out for yourself. It's time to regroup, center. Women need be nurtured as well as to be nurturing. Just focus on yourself, make yourself happy for awhile.
sg
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
And I'm sorry it's so hard. I certainly remember those nights and even days, where I felt nearly paralyzed--and I only had 2 kids.
You will make it!
I have talked about things like manicures and pedicures over the years, because I never used to do those things. And one day, when I was on the relationship for which I came to the board, I just went out and pampered my self, and I was feeling like a really, well...one of those women who are always 'done'. I was in good shape,and the nails, just gave me a lot of confidence.
I ran into the guy and he was taken by me. The truth is could probably care less about nails. But I think it was whatever it was that I was projecting.
So if it's nails, hair, a massage, a good book, a bubble bath, new lingerie--whatever it is for you. Just do it. You are worth it. And by the way, even if nobody notices, you've got it for you.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
sgctxok -- I'm asking you how -- how have you been DBing successfully for nearly 10 years. I could certainly use the tips. Are you and your spouse together?? How old are your children??
M 41 H 41 D16 S 15 D 12 D 10 S 9 M 17 yrs OW Jan. 03 - May 04 S Dec. 03 - May 04 R May 04 - Apr 10 OW Apr 10 S Aug.10 ** H wants LS and D **
Well, the holidays were tough for me. I put on a happy face and was so terribly busy between my house, parents, grandparents and aunts, but the whole time it felt like part of me was missing, and that's because it was. I don't think that the kids or the rest of my family noticed because I worked so hard to appear "happy" and loving the Christmas celebrations.
This is just so ridiculously difficult. The man cheated on me repeatedly. My head tells me I'm much better off without him, that I am worth more, that there must be someone out there who will treat me with more respect, but I can't help what my heart feels - and it feels like it was ripped from my chest!!
I understand the whole GAL and trust me when I say I have a life busier and fuller than 2 lives, but I think he just wants out! I don't know if my new years resolution is going to be to DB better and stronger or if it's going to be to give up and move on with my life - after all, that's what he keeps telling me to do!
M 41 H 41 D16 S 15 D 12 D 10 S 9 M 17 yrs OW Jan. 03 - May 04 S Dec. 03 - May 04 R May 04 - Apr 10 OW Apr 10 S Aug.10 ** H wants LS and D **
I don't know if my new years resolution is going to be to DB better and stronger or if it's going to be to give up and move on with my life - after all, that's what he keeps telling me to do!
Why make either of these things your resolution?
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
I apologize, I just saw your other question and wrote you a long response. And my internet went down and when I refreshed it I lost the response. I have to leave right now, but I will write it later and post it.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
sgctxok - No there is no rest ahead. Back to work tomorrow and hockey, basketball and volleyball are back in full motion. I coach two different OBA teams, plus my son's high school team, so I am coaching five days a week (with two or more practices some days). Also, we have tournaments almost every weekend from now till mid-may (and that's about the start of travel soccer LOL) Anyhow, the GAL part of DB, I've never had a problem with!!
As for the New Years Resolution, your right, I don't need to make either of those things a priority - it's just that I feel stuck and I am a fairly organized, logical person. It helps to have a set schedule/goal - get him back (work harder) or let him go (move on).
Anyhow, no real answer right now and I guess I don't really have to choose now - it's not like we see each other often or talk much at all. I'll put it on the shelf for now.
M 41 H 41 D16 S 15 D 12 D 10 S 9 M 17 yrs OW Jan. 03 - May 04 S Dec. 03 - May 04 R May 04 - Apr 10 OW Apr 10 S Aug.10 ** H wants LS and D **
Saw my H today and we actually spoke to each other with no animosity. This is a good step for us, however, we are about 10 million steps from where I want to be!! I don't know how some of you stay so positive. I hate that he is seeing other women!!! Being positive is so hard, accepting what he is doing is so hard!
M 41 H 41 D16 S 15 D 12 D 10 S 9 M 17 yrs OW Jan. 03 - May 04 S Dec. 03 - May 04 R May 04 - Apr 10 OW Apr 10 S Aug.10 ** H wants LS and D **
