Pickle, In the articles, it says that the MLC spouse does not consider the LBS as a friend. They are actually afraid of their spouse because we know them better than anything, and know what is in thir mind. Its a kind of paranoia. The more you know about her, the more you can manipulate her. That is why she runs out of the room when she saw you - she does not wnat you to see what "weapons" she has to make herself strong.
I notice the same with my H. He seems to not want to share anything about himself with me. He mumbles when he talks to me, as though he is reluctant to share any information.
My H also has a family hx of depression. I think that increases the predisposition to MLC, as depression is a must in MLC.
Everyday, it feels that more and more our R is spiraling down the drain.
But as they say, MLC has to reach bottom before it can go up. Sometimes, I just want to hurry it up, hope he just crashes and goes into overt, clinical depression so we can start going up.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
