Correct me if I'm wrong but weren't you the one who had anger and jealousy issues and that was the main reason why she left? Plus you had an A I believe.
"yea i did was griping about her behavior thats the only way i can get her to respond to me"
You spent last month trying to change. It seems like you haven't been able to make them stick. You act that way because you believe that's the only way to get her to respond to you. Why the heck would anyone want to respond, positively, to someone who keeps griping at them and complaining about their behavior?
You said you'd lighten up on the control issues. Doesn't seem that way to me. You being constantly critical of her, even to get a reaction, isn't exactly going to have her falling into your arms.
Do you want to save your M or not? If you're going to keep being critical, you might as well go down to the L and end it right now. It's faster.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.