When you're piecing, working on rebuilding a realtionship/marriage alot of the "Do not" list goes out the window, simply because it has too.
Piecing is hard because for someone who has taking DB to heart and lived by it now has to unlearn alot of it.
No R talks?
Guess what?
Now you have too. Establishing boundaries and what you expect from each other, communicating and listening to each other.
No I love yous?
Not sure of too many good marriages where no one says I love you.
SBH,
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2. Wife is continuing EA and is happy because of OM or she is feeling guilty and being nicer and nicer to me because of it (I have no proof of A, she is always where she says shes going to be, always home on time, cell records indicate no communication at all, nothing on computer, always at work, you get the point).
But it makes me wonder how often the WAS LOOKS to be committing to M just to carry on A. Does anyone have any insight?
You're not finding any proof of anything...and you're looking. Which in piecing, good for you for verifying.
But you're not finding anything, why are you making up monsters in your mind?
Its not a bad idea to have a plan of how you'll react to a situation, but when those plans start sabotaging you and your effort, its time to realize, its a plan, not proof.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
