decade of heartbreak

[Sad_but_happy]

Hi Cold,
Great to hear from you again.

I don't think what you did is all that bad. You called OM to FIGHT for your M. Very attractive if you ask me, IMO...

Listen... You have every right NOT to be lied to in your M. Your W lied to you about OM. That means you can't trust her and until trust is restored you can't have a M.

Seems to me there are lots of positives in your post...

1. She TALKED about coming back to bedroom. She didn't have to say anything but she DID. The is thinking and pondering.

2. You were able to laugh and have fun with her. Keep that up.

3. She let you rub her back... AWESOME!!! Many WAS don't want/won't let/can't stand the sight of their LBS's. Great sign.

Continue to focus on the positives...

As for contacting OM, you had every right to call him out! If my W's EA called MY HOME, I would let him have it good. HE came into YOUR world (your home), you didn't go into his!!! It's bad enough that he is helping to ruin a family, but to disrespect you and your home, NO F'ing WAY!!!