Hi everyone, time for me to check in again. Ive been reading several posts for awhile now esp. SBH'S,Habitacker's,Inapickle's, Denver and Sandi2.
I want to tell all of you how much reading both the good and the bad helps me stay the course in my sitch. Sandi2's advice on some things really hits home with me. Also. even though we all come from different walks of life I can't believe the similarities that exist. It as if some of the w's read from the same playbook.
W takes a couple of weeks off for the Holiday's, hopefully to enjoy and spend time with family and friends. Well before we even get started I do something I regret. After our long talk about om contact while not at work went reasonably well, her cell rings the wed before xmas at 6am. She is the bedroom next mine/ours and it wakes me up and I see she is out on the deck talking. I ask who it was, she replies, just one of her coworkers. Should have let it go, but no, I get to work and check the ph records and sure enough it was the om.
I stew about this for about 3 hrs @ work and decide enough is enough and call his cell. Ask him what could he possibly be calling MY w on her day off about. He wanted to ask her if she needed any egg cartons,(yes, we have 8 chickens),I lost it. I told him he could talk at work all he wanted but while she's home under our roof forget it. He say's he got the message loud and clear.(I said other things not to be repeated here). Later that day I felt like a little school boy throwing a tantrum,not good. His tone was supprisingly soft and subdued,didn't expect that, thought he would tell ne to f*off or something.
I will never contact or bring the subject of him up again.(IC's advice, should have followed it)
That night I did tell w what I did and why and it didn't seem to bother her much.
Next couple of weeks go o'k, friendly, w spending time with kids,seems to be comfortable. She wants to start cleaning out her side of the closet in our room and hints at moving back into the room. This has not happened and I am not bringing it up. (Believe nothing they say and only half of what they do)
My daughter has caught her crying at times in private, I'm guessing depressed. But she will not seek help and I don't push it, just trying to be her friend again.
She's back to work this week and as usual at times she seems in another world,I leave her alone and try to work on myself.
On a positive note she did let me rub her back several times and my BIL did such a stupid/silly thing on ny's day that on the way home we both laughed so hard I had to stop the car.
So this long battle continues; this site,my kids,my IC and my love for her keep me going.
Thks for listening and commenting, Cold
M-29yrs T-39 2 S's D ILYBNILWY 2/10 A bomb 7/25/10 FOG,LIMBO,ETC. PRESENT
