Working on acceptance and forgiveness

[AntoniaB]

I don't think I am going to confront her. At least not yet. He said that she contacted him in early December. Thus every emotionaless email or text I've talked about since then has been due to her request of him. He said that she contacted him after he and I had a long phone conversation. She told him not to contact me again and if I contacted him to respond with little to no emotion thinking it was best for me.

The thing is that that long conversation with him generated the discussion about us trying to have a friendship or not, and after I thought about it, I ceased contact with him on the grounds that I thought he was goign to put me in a position where he might drop me as a friend next if his GF got jealous. I made that decision. I told my family that. My sister didn't trust me.

I've been saying for awhile now that my family has been too overprotective and this really takes the cake. I COULD HANDLE HIM ON MY OWN.

She actually made things worse for me. I ceased contact, but in the few instances he and I did have to talk, he was emotionless and cold. He's saying that this is per her request.

I have become more and more infuriated at him and built up a ton of rage over the tone of these emails. Now he's saying it was done because she asked him to do this?

What I did with the info was to tell him this. To tell him that his emails have just infuriated me and made me angry at him for not caring or having any compassion. I mean jeez, I've become so angry about his tone with me that it has affected my ability to think kindly of him at all over the course of the marriage. I went from being accepting a month or so ago back into rage and wanting to write him off forever. This is all due to him following her request???