D- I work for a small company as corp. counsel. I love it. I did some family law in my early days. I saw the effect of divorce and hated it.
No my wife didn't move out. At one point she really thought she wanted to but our finances wouldn't really support it at the time. Because of we both live about 2000 miles from our families neither of us really had a place to go except get a new apartment. She ultimately decided that it wouldn't be fair to our kids to have to shuttle them around and see us on a part-time basis. Although, I told here I supported the temp S, I was never really behind it. Eventually, she settled on separate rooms which worked out as intended. I don't know where I'd be if she moved out, honestly.
Just a few weeks ago she decided that we should sleep in the same room.
We had a huge discussion/fight last night though it gave me a lot to think about on my M, my W and the DB process. Honestly, my opinion of the DB process is coming out not so favorable. Take last night for example. The list posted here of things not to do is say I love you. So my wife says to me last night, "Just once I want to her you say you love me." I was so focused on trying to not expect anything from her to realize that maybe she needs to hear it. I also think the process puts too much focus on yourself (which could lead to only thinking of yourself) and the whole idea of detachment is just odd. I don't want to be detached from my W. Because the moment that happens, I think it could be over. (I know it's not true detachment, but if really should be called something else as a lot of people are confused by this.)
I do think it is helpful in a lot of situations.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
