Hope all is well with you and I pray that business picks up for you and that the silent partner deal works out.
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My H decided to call me yesterday to tell me about the married woman that he had an affair with (although he denys it was during the time we were together) she called him and left a message on his work phone and personal phone yesterday.
Question for you Kissak – why did you listen to the conversation?
Here is what I think (FTR, I am not a professional, just some Rican dude that lives in CT)…
You listened because you still do not feel comfortable cutting off the conversation. You are afraid that you will upset him. If it were me, I would politely say to him…”listen H, I really do not have time nor do I care to discuss this with you – I have to go – thank you”. Until you realize that everything that is DONE to you, you ALLOW and to some extent can control you will continue to struggle with this.
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He thought I would find it just as weird as he did. Well, what does he expect?
IMO, HE expects that you will help him NOT have to FACE the consequences of HIS Actions. The really issue that all of us LBS must face is….why do we care? When will we say to ourselves enough is enough. That is not to say be a b*tch – no it is to say that we are special and we too have a God given right to not have to deal with people or conversation that we feel are not in our best interest. Standing for what we believe in is the hard part.
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I would like to know why he wants to discuss her with me
Comes a time that you will not give a chit…why. BUT I think Mila said it best (if we must have an answer)…
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they trust us
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even though my H may appear to be detached from me,I dont think he is or ever will be.
He will be “attached” as much as YOU allow him to be. Remember Detachment is for who?
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I feel so alone
First, you’re not alone.
Second, embrace it….embrace your independence because it is here in this place, this lonely place that you will find who YOU really are. Who you are when the chips are stacked against you, when all seems lost, when the business is not flowing, it is here Kissak that you will find your true strength. I know I see it….
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he hung around hoping I would be intimate with him
Ya know YOU do not have to allow him to hang around. Kissak, this is your life, deal with him in a manner that YOU feel comfortable with.
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Pray for me please
YOU and Many others always are!
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
