One of those nights... Tossed and turned for almost 2 hrs... Took a drive until midnight... Came home and still couldn't stop thinking... So here I am! The past month was pretty good mentally, but my future financial stability is concerning me tonight... That and how horrible my so called W has been. It's been a long day emotionally... Good news is I kept my sadness and anger private and I've not had any bad contact with W.
So here we go STILL!!! Ok now, I can't be too dramatic because I did get a slight chuckle outa this one. She emails me asking if she switches vehicles last night, she knew she was suppose to. I waited a bit, but responded Yes, switch. So I go out to get in the vehicle to go to work... No gas... Gas light is on... I was pissed at first because I knew it would make me late for work. I couldn't help but chuckle though, because I just can't believe her CONSTANT attempts to upset me. It's just cruel!!! So I was gonna email her, but waited a couple minutes... DID NOT RESPOND! Just filled up the car... Called work to inform them of what she pulled and that I might be late... I usually arrive 15 minutes early... I was able to get there 2 minutes before my shift started.
She keeps trying to upset me, hurt me, humiliate me, everything, IVE DONE NOTHING!!! lol Geeez!!! My New Years Resolution was to focus more on being positive and actually find HAPPINESS and not let W get to me... It's gonna be a long year but I did chuckle!!! I'm trying! Lol
I'm holding up WELL on no contact and positive happy contact... GAL... and "As If"... I still feel her anger is due to her lack of finaces... I don't think she sees her decision to leave as a mistake yet. I'm wondering myself if it was a mistake... Maybe not for me.
Found out W has had her new boyfriend (confirmed by her own father) watch my Children alone on occassion with his 12 year old son. Obviously that is concerning since I have 3 daughters 6 and under. D6, and D3 told me OM has changed babies diapers even. Uh WHAT?! I know she couldn't have know him that long. Father-in-law and brother-in-law describe home as an "a real a-hole". Just great!
So I had appt with my attorney today to setup for hearing in a week... W and her attorney had sent a letter asking for court intervention due to W's financial "struggle", and also listed several lies... About 10 dif things... I made it unbearable for her to live there, I kicked her out, changed the locks, refused to provide her child support, etc. So I provided several text messages which showed we got along fine and hung out often just prior to her leaving, which was discussed. I had asked her to leave because I felt it was disrespectful for her to live under my roof as she cheated, she agreed to move out, wrote a check to landlord back in SEP... LONG before things really got heated. That she had been staying at other peoples homes long before I asked her to even leave. She confirmed in text that she did say I could change the locks, but made an issue of it so she could get pictures from the house. In an email I offered to provide her child support payments in the amount that my attorney agreed on until an ACTUAL agreed amount was determined... She refused it and stated she wanted more money AND $250 for maintenance, which had not even been discussed.
My attorney was a bit shocked just by W actions as a mother. My mind was put a little at ease because W is likely to only get now under $400 in child support - school lunches, $40 each kid... $160. So after all is said and done I'd really only be out under $300 per month.
One thing Im certain of... W is gonna get caught up in her own web of lies... And NO judge likes being lied to... I'm a bit calmer and ALOT more confident now. Dug in and prepared for her attack. Hopefully my babies will be safe!
Man, I'm sorry that you are going through this. I wish that I had advice for you, but I'm too new here and my sitch has progressed that far... yet... hopefully never. Hang in there though. It sounds like you are doing great!
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
Thanks Denver... I am doing better after my meeting. I'll hopefully be on top of the world after the first hearing. W back to ignoring me... OM in her life and on her mind, so now... I DO NOT EXIST.
So I finally found out his name... Appears the family is correct... Also a loser apparently... Been in trouble with the law plenty... Doesn't even have a license. WOW! There is a photo of my W sitting on his lap on his page. Unreal
Dad - That is terrible news. I don't know how I'd be if I saw something like that. I think that I'd definitely tell you to stop looking at the FB pages. there is nothing you can do about her actions or decisions. whether you continue to hang on is all determined by your feelings. I read someone say on here that you will know when the time arrives to give up. there will be no hesitation in your mind. No one can tell you when that time arrives.
Just know that there are others, including me, that feel the pain that you are going through. You are not alone.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
Yes I did advise my attorney, but I don't know what she can do. She mentioned she would try to find out who he is, but now I know. He's not a sex offender luckily, but he appears to be a playa and a BSer. A contractor who "owns" his own business... With a hotmail.com email link. Sounds and looks like a dirtball contractor... Likely using my W for money she may get at some point
but I did chuckle!!! I'm trying! Lol