Is the tide turning???????

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Thanks CW, Cas, Tulsa, and Sanderika for your encouragement and insights.

If exH's actions of late are not signs of reconnection...

CW, by this ^^^^^^ do you mean that you think XH is reconnecting? I'm too close to this situation and of course I can't post everything that happens, so even though there seem to be positive developments, I still find myself on a rollercoaster. Ughhh!!!!! Thanks for your suggestion about maybe shopping for some kind of new gadget. I shouldn't be restricting my thoughts to electronics only.

Are you losing patience with XH or are you just impatient with the whole situation?

Cas, you ask a very good question. I have been thinking a lot about this since I read your post. I am primarily impatient with the whole situation. In some ways I feel that I am wasting time by continuing to DB XH......yet as I write these words I know that even if I wasn't still DB'ing XH I wouldn't be "out there" dating up a storm. Been there. Done that more times than I care to remember. Over the last day or so I have felt anger bubbling up at XH because he has run away from his emotional issues for so many years that I question whether he will ever have the courage to address them.........but at the same time, XH's R with BMF has been challenged this year like never before. It is possible that XH could grow tremendously in emotional terms before this year is over.

Tulsa, when I read your encouraging message last night before bedtime I can't tell you how much it meant to me given your backstory. It helped me to fall asleep more easily last night. Maybe I'm reading too much into your comment, but I imagine that you can remember at time when you felt like my XH might be feeling now...........Your comment makes me think that you think XH is having more than just friendly feelings???? It gives me hope. Thank you.

Dear Sanderika, I am SO sorry about what you are going through right now. You and your H obviously love one another deeply. When all is said and done, a M license is just a piece of paper. The love between you and H is what really matters.

et's see if XH calls on you when/if his plans with BMF fall through. You left XH with an image that will be hard to ignore once Thursday comes and he has no plans.

I smiled when I read this because I was thinking the same thing myself.

the electronics/entertainment center idea is perfect if you intend to buy. This will give him an opportunity to spend time with you, you will be able to show him you value his help and expertise and he can help you set it up and then you two can share some drinks as you listen to favorite music or watch an equally pleasing dvd/show. It opens the door for casual fun and connection without other expectations.

This ^^^^^^ builds upon my initial thought in a way that I hadn't considered (XH hasn't really wanted to spend much time around the house for more than a year ---- I think it is difficult for him to see what he left behind). Thank you for writing this scenario. I will do a little preparatory research. I can feel XH out to determine his interest level while playing TT with him.

If you plant the seeds of desire and unconditional love in his thoughts, his heart will follow.

Thanks for your reminder to be patient and reduce expectations. This ^^^^^ is golden. Thank you again!

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