Welcome to the divorcebusting community--officially! You will always remember zengypsy as your first poster. And her advice is just perfect.
The only thing I would add right now is your 180 needs to be related to his stereotype of you. Ihave a hunch that being out of his own country, his own element is contributing to a lot of his unhappiness and the blame being weighed on your interpersonal issues. Maybe you can get some clues as to what might help while his dad is in town.
btw--when you say this new country, are you both in the United States?
