Hi Doc. Congratulations on the new degree! I look forward to hearing about your next job.
Hmm. I have reservations about this elephant in the room conversation. Have you and W had any conversations about her affair before? I'm just wondering if there really is an elephant in the room, or if you don't have an obsession. Not saying you need medication! Just wondering if a conversation will really cure it, or if it will reinforce it. At some point, you have to get over it.
I can see discussing it once. But if you have discussed it, and you haven't put it to bed, then I think it is your problem, not hers. If you haven't discussed it yet, then I think you should let her know that you know it's an uncomfortable subject for her, and you only want to discuss it once. And you would appreciate her help in you getting over it. And after the discussion, that's it. Never again. somehow I have this vision of you on your deathbed at 90 years old still wanting to go punch that guy's lights out!
