I am a WAW, and I think I need help.

[zengypsy]

Hi Allie:

I am sorry for what you are going thru. It's such a painful time. You are certainly in the right place!

You can't blame yourself for it all. If you can accept responsibility for your role it whatever, be it big or small, you have taken a great stride already and your H is nothing more than stuck. It's so much easier to balme someone else then to really take a look at yourself and see what your contribution was.

Do you feel your depressed? It wouldn't hurt to go to your MD or C (if you have one) to get a firm diagnosis. And if you are diagnosed with depression, you don't necessarily need to treat it with drugs. Get yourself into some therapy for YOU.

Ambivalence is a tricky, tricky piece. I don't recall what Chapter it is, but I remember Michele in the DR book indicating she had a similar situation with her H asking him what's wrong and he [censored] down. I was the same way with my H. I would badger him to tell me what was bothering him, following hinm from room to room. NOT the thing to do. It's about giving him space and let him work through whatever he needs to and it may not have anything to do with you or the situation. If that happens again, just let him be and you get yourself busy. Clean the dishes, the house, read. If you leave him alone, you will be showing him a different action that may get a more positive response.