Starting to DB. will the D really get B ?

[zengypsy]

Jas:

Welcome to this forum. I am a newbie so I can offer little advice even tho I have read DR over and over.

First let me say that I am sorry for your sitch. It stinks espeically when there are children involved. If you've read DR, then you are off to a great start.

I would welcome some back-up from the board vets,but from what I've been reading on alot of threads and in the DR book is that you have to detach lovingly. It doesn't mean giving up, it just means giving the person their space. It will allow your H to have more clarity and for you to have more as well. Work on YOU!!! GAL (get a life) - see friends, take up a hobby, rearrange the furniture, count leaves, do things that make you strong and show your H that you can have a life without him even though you prefer one with him. He wants to see the woman he feel in love with again. And you are in there; perhaps you never left but just got lost along the way. Actions, Actions, Actions! Doing more of the same will only get you the same. Do 180's - something opposite of what you have been doing.

Board vets...how am I doing so far? Have I been in a good study?!