Deju vu, but new to the online forum...round 2

[Denver_2010]

Mj - I think that you need to do what is best for you, even if that means moving out. This Dbing is all about doing 180s, GAL, and "acting as if"... for you, that may be moving out and gaining some independence from your W. Even though she is the WAS, she is trying to control you.

I know that many on the board say that it is bad to be physically separated, but I've seen some situations on here where there was success with that. Where it made it easier to DB. And I KNOW that in my situation, W not leaving our home would NOT have resulted in anything good. There needed to be separation for both of us. Things had progressed to the point with us that nothing was going to improve with us both in the same home. Now, 6 weeks later, things aren't all that much better, but I do feel the anger lifting on her part.

That is my W and I's specific situation though. Every sitch is different. You obviously know your sitch better than anyone on this site, so use that insight on the situation and your W's mood to make a decision. But make a decision! Not for us or for your W, but for you... what is best for you???

Once you have made that choice, DB. GAL, do your 180s, get a DB coach if you need to. But you have to be decisive right now.