I agree with Habit. Most WAW's have a certain amount of cold heartedness toward a H who shows any signs of clinginess or neediness. Asking her what it would take to get her to stay would make you appear weak in her eyes. What attracts us gals are men who show self-confindence. That is a form of inner strength and people can pick up on that in a minute....especially your W.
You may still be having a problem with the idea that you need to make changes in order to be a better "you". Some men have the thought that if the W is not going to stay then there is no point bothering to make changes. However, that is the wrong mental attitude.
You have a good idea what she "doesn't" like, right? So, just don't do what you know she dislikes. Then you become the man who any woman would be crazy for leaving.
Sandi, that last paragraph really hit home.......
M - 42 W - 41 Married 9 years July 24, 2010 WAW moved out 8-9-10 2nd Marriage for Both S 2 SS 13 from W first Marriage
