Since OW just visited, does this mean that H will not be with OW on his birthday? Isn't that interesting.......
I agree with the others. A simple birthday wish is probably best in this situation. When you invited H to join you and D for Christmas, you were allowing him to enjoy everything you had prepared for you and D. You had not prepared dinner, cookies, decorations specifically for H.
By sending H a simple e-mail you are being consistent in your behavior in that you are acknowledging his birthday (keeping the door open a bit) but letting him know that you don't intend to be his buddy.
I say text him "happy birthday" and leave it at that. Why bother with an email?!
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
You know Mila - the birthday thing was sorted out for me, when my ex-husband decided to remarry .... on his birthday!!! (that stung) He'll never get a birthday wish from me again.
It's funny though, my birthday is 3 days after his - and for each of the 3 years he's been re-married - he's never missed a card in the mail, a small gift delivered to my door or office and an e-mail before 6am in the morning.
Sometimes I think he's less detached than me!
These guys are out to lunch. Send him an e-mail (early in the afternoon) - that's all he deserves.
Cheers,
V
Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
Thanks for your opinions on H's B-Day....I will just email him a simple wish
CW - the stuff H wanted 2 days ago is still sitting outside under the porch....yesterday morning he requested more business things and I emailed back saying that it's ready in the outside mailbox for pick-up....well it's still there...and I'm little worried because there are cheques in that envelope...somebody could take it.....hopefully he will pick it up soon...
GAG - no OW is not going to be here on H's B-Day....strange right? and it's a round one 55....
Walking - interesting that your EX is giving you gifts on your BD even when you ignore his....
A piece of interesting information has come my way...OW is sharing with people that my H is paranoid that she will leave him....ha the trust issues....that has to be a problem....how can you trust someone who you know was capable of lying for months to her H, how do you trust someone who cheated on her H....how do you know she will not do that to you.....
More popcorn anyone?
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
Right! Im hoping that the woman my H is with right now will eventually have those trust issues with him...I mean, he was after all texting her repeatedly while living with me.....only time will tell.
Save me some popcorn!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Well, duh, to your H. How can she trust him, for that matter? Did you read about Shania Twain ... marrying the man, whose wife betrayed him with Shania's H (apparently he was very supportive of her during that time, as I am sure she was for him). And this OW was a friend of Shania. I don't know how people can call themselves that, then turn around and f$#% their friend's H. That's one thing I don't share with my friends.
Excuse the language, but I cannot call it ML when they are betraying the people who trusted them the most.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Kissak - I'm sure that the OW will catch on pretty fast if your H continues his pattern.
Being - Duh is right...how can they trust each other...mind you how could I ever trust him again if it comes to that....BTW the Shania Twain story is something, isn't it...sick...hope she finds happiness with her new H.
H finally picked up the things he so desperately needed 2 days ago...called me this afternoon asking if it's OK to come (in his very depressed voice) I said cheerfully "Sure, it's been waiting for you"....he said that he has some chegues for me and he is worried to leave them in the mailbox (was he trying to see me?)...I just said don't worry, I'll make sure that I pick it up right away...bye and I hung up.
We were actually emailing back and forth all day, but just dry business stuff...
That's all for today
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
I'd like some kettle corn please! You like carmel corn, right Mila?????????
H must sense that OW is pulling back, don't you think? Sounds like your Christmas invitation DID have an effect. Well done! You have plenty of time to decide whether you want to have H back in your life in the future. Here's your chance to make him sweat a bit.
I'm not sure what's going on with the 2 of them....he obviously still really wants to be with her....but he is worried for some reason....and so he should be....he gave up everything he ever loved to be with her....and I mean everything including his integrity, honesty and values...no wonder that he is scared...if this breaks up what is he left with????
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
He's left with nothing but looking up toward the light shining down on him at the bottom of the barrel. He can move from there, if he chooses to.
Almost weekend.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
