Do I sit back and live day to day waiting for her to decide my future, or do I pressure her into engaging the two of us in some meaningful dialogue?
Do you "want" her to decide your future? I believe it is important for the LBH to make good decisions, and I believe you were wise to not make that purchase. You did not allow her to decide for you about that, right? That could have made an impact toward your future, but you used your wisdom. Right now, your WAW who is in an A is not making good choices and certainly does not need to influence you in pricy purchases.
My suggestion is that you do not try to get her to discuss the R and/or the future. You can decide for yourself if you want to continue to live with her while she conducts an A. But if you stay with her, then do not expect her to give attention to the MR while she's in an A with OM. It just doesn't work that way. That is why MC seldom works while there is an A going on.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
