Spellfire and Denver thank you for the feedback.

Denver I actually replied to you but that post never actually went through...

Spellfire - I am making the changes for myself and I can tell you I feel much better with not snooping alone.

Total random question here - I do the most of the housework here. I genuinely do this for myself because a messy place drives me nuts. Doing her laundry is a part of that. Should I stop doing her stuff for her?