Thanks Denver. I understand you are an attorney. I am as well. I'm from Colorado and my sister is also an attorney there. I just got my on motion admission approved for the Colorado Bar. I still have to get sworn in. Also, I know I'm damn lucky. I don't know if you know my whole situation, but at one point my W wanted a D or at the very least to move out for a bit. Those didn't happened and I am grateful for that.
SBH I had a very solid meeting with my IC today and he put a lot of things in perspective. He said despite the NYE incident that there is a lot of positive there. He also said he though my reaction to it probably wasn't proportional to what actually happened. My IC also does couples counseling so he brings in some of that as well. He knows, and this applies to your situation as well, that the path back is not a straight line and there will be ups and downs but as long as the trajectory is positive that's what is important.
I do disagree with your assessment. I don't want to get to the point of not caring. First of all, I don't think my W cares so little. If she didn't care, she'd be out the door. If she didn't care she's be content to live as roomates for the next 30 years. But she is going to MC, she is taking steps like sleeping in the same bed, trying to restart our sex life, and lastly working really hard to get through this from her end. That my friend is not caring a little bit that is caring a lot. I know at times she didn't care, but that is over now. As I said to you yesterday my W told me that she knows she does have a lot to lose and is thankful I haven't bailed - physically or emotionally.
Your W and sitaution might be different.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
