Thanks for the replies gals--unfortunately, new dilemma!
On Sunday night my STBEXH spent the night in jail. He finally hit me--hard--on the back of my head/neck as I was bending over.
I was being a pain (asked him over and over to not blare the television late at night--he has one in his room (I'm in the spare) since the TV is on my wall and after saying prayers with S15 I again said--not too nicely--you need to turn that off. I need my sleep (true--I have been steaming over this for a while and I can't get to sleep).
He gets all "I pay the bills around here and as long as I do that I can....blah blah blah".
So I unplugged the television and he jumps up and plugs it back in. So I bend down and begin to unplug again and BAM--I think he used both fists and I saw stars!! It REALLY hurt and I have had a headache since. Ugh.
So I call the police, they come out, take a report--H gets dressed and is waiting outside for them. I tell them I DON'T want to press charges but 5 minutes later they knock on the door and they announce they are taking him to jail and he'll see a judge in the a.m.
I was pretty scared by this--I mean, you know that this may happen intellectually, but to have it REALLY HAPPEN is really, really surreal! I have had friends tell me for months that he would get worse, and then... he did. Ugh.
So he is now on a "no contact" order for me and my son until the 18th.
And he was charged with assault, not domestic violence--anyone know how that works or what that means?
I really hate this!! I mean, I know we are getting a D and all, but I still, IDK, can talk to him and he talks to me. But now I am in this house by myself looking out for S 15 and it is really strange not to be able to bounce things off of him and have someone to sort of speak to.
But on the other hand, it is rather liberating. I guess like a lot of things, it's a matter of getting used to.
Meanwhile, I have to give a depo tomorrow. I tried to talk to H's dad to get H to cancel it but I don't think he will. At least I know H won't be there (I'm not sure he was going to be there anyway, but he acted like he was going to be there--probably trying to intimidate me.) It's going to be a very expensive day. Ugh. And stressful. And I still have a huge headache every day. UGH!!!!!
