So did you make the purchase for the get-away home that she wanted?
Instead of giving you a direct answer like you deserved, she stuck a pacifier in your mouth ("We'll talk tonight"). She had no intentions of talking (IMO) and made sure the kids were around or that she was in bed. Trust me, when women want to TALK.....nothing holds them back. That is what closed doors are for....
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I am trying to follow the MWD advice, but at some point I do feel that you cannot continue to be a doormat and let the WAW dictate all of the actions and decisions.
If you feel like a doormat then you will give off those vibes. I see more & more posts that refer to DBing as "doormat" techniques. I don't think anyone can use us like a doormat unless we allow them.
I am a little concerned about her being in such an upbeat mood when she came home......after telling you that the two of you would "talk later". She got her way. She got you to make an expensive purchase and she put you off with any explanations. Yes, she wants that get-away....but for what?
Don't make moves that make you feel badly, just try to think like "Coach"!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
