Sorry dude…but bullchit…you are trying to “read” something out of her actions/words. What do hope to accomplish with “getting a sense of some of these things”? Really man – what? What I can tell you is that you have to let her go man. Let her live her life the way she want too.
I get detaching from all the drama. My personal take on this MLC experience, based on what I've learned/witnessed so far, is this:
There is a very fine line between detachment and compassion when dealing with someone you love, have children with, etc... who got sucked up into the mother ship, and was replaced by an alien life form who resembles your spouse in every way except for their uhhhh...grip on reality. To me, 'letting go' of her is one thing. Letting her 'live her life the way she wants too', knowing I still care about her and feel compassion for her, and also knowing the potential negative impact of her choices/decisions on our children, is a whole other matter. Just my two cents.
In any case, I have a new question. Have your spouses ever admitted their confusion to you? Yesterday I was having a conversation with my wife about some money issue. I made a simple suggestion to her about how to handle the issue. Her reply was, "I can't think very straight these days. Can you just sign me a check for [X] amount?" To me, that type of admission is very telling and significant. It's the first time in the last 1-1/2 years that she has acknowledged as much. It tells me she's struggling and confused...and she's finally becoming aware of this fact. I just hope she can fight the good fight and conquer her demons. Anyhow, I just wondered if you all have experienced something similar.
One other question. How do we [my wife and I] get to within a month where she can legally file for divorce, and she has made zero mention of it in the last six months, nor has she made any overt actions towards that end? What gives?
