So sorry to hear about your recent upheaval. You've been so wise and patient with so many of us here. You led me here in the first place, and it's been my saving grace. ((HUGS))
First, as Brooklyn says, laws vary state to state. In my state, you can get a no fault D in 30 days. Just like it never happened. The more assets you have, the more difficult it becomes.
Dam* the cost and get yourself representation of your own. Cover all your bases. 37% of his pension? Why not 50%. Signing the house over to you? What a prince. Who's been keeping it up while he's been out and about? And part of his pension is not considered payment of alimoney, or maintainence as it is called in my state.
Finally, I'm sad for you because, like a loved one with terminal illness, you may know it is coming, but when it happens, it's still a punch in the gut. Leaves you breathless and in pain for awhile. Something you can never quite prepare for entirely.
Just do for yourself what you've reminded so many of us to do for ourselves. PROTECT YOURSELF. He's not sailing this ship. You don't take orders from him. See what your options are.
((MORE HUGS))
ME: 54 Him: 51 M: 20 years T: 21 years OW/New wife: 36 Sons & Daughters: 7 (ages 24-36) Bomb: March 4, 2010 He Filed: April 28, 2010 I Contested: May 1, 2010 Standing Down: 11/24/10 Divorced : 05/04/2011
