Last night I was supposed to "pick" the best choice for her to move out to. So, I did lots of thinking and writing.. and I made my choice. But I (like an idiot) peppered it with.. "My first choice is for you to stay home".. and then told her which apartment I liked best for her. Then (like a real idiot), I mentioned a few stressors that this would bring. Although I was positive about the apt, I listed several difficult topics (mostly financial).
Well, that tripped her. She switched moods entirely. "I'll stay home, since I have no choice, and go back to being the perfect wife." And saying how I manipulated her (which I admitted to). Then she cried for hours and would not be comforted. First time she's cried since she's been back home from the help-center.
This morning she wakes up, super fake-happy. Making breakfast, gave me a kiss and all. I start heading for work, and she drops this bomb.. If you really cared about me, you would have taken the day off work and got me that apartment. So, I switch gears, and start to do just that. But it's too late, since now she's told me. So, I take off work, but she wont talk to me anymore. but then we're fighting. I suggest that we go have breakfast, and talk this over. But she won't have it. She's mad, I'm mad. Uhg. How could I be so stupid? Anyway, so here I am back at work. Miserable. Back to the drawing board.
So, should I go rent her an apartment during lunch today?
I think I broke some 180 rule like "don't engage in discussions about the future?", and definitely "don't lose your cool, don't get emotional".
Me-37 W-37 Married-14 SS17, D11, S5 Bomb: 12/13/10 WAW one foot out the door.
