My biggest question is.... Do I ask her what I need to fix or do I just do it. I need to know if I can change my ways will she stay come June. Do I ask her that specifically or do I just float it out so to speak.....

My question would be...

"If I can make all these changes will you stay?"

She told me not to make promises and that she cannot make any promises either.


Me - 39 yrs old
Wife - 39 yrs old
Married - 18 years
Together - almost 21 year
Kids - son age 13/ daughter age 10
Bomb Dropped in May 2010
Seperating - June 2011, after school lets out