I am sorry I have not responded prior, I am not doing very well. I am deep in anxiety about my impending court date on the 13th. I have a lengthy post on Cas thread....
I see all positives here....XH asked you about a TT game this week. I thinks it's cool that you suggested Thursday at 6:00 as your availability and then didn't offer a counter date when XH stated he had tentative plans with BMF. Let's see if XH calls on you when/if his plans with BMF fall through. You left XH with an image that will be hard to ignore once Thursday comes and he has no plans.
FTR, I would have stated NO to the movie idea as well. A movie is nice once you are involved in a serious relationship where it doesn't matter about making social impressions because they already exist.
I was thinking more about you soliciting his help on something he is good at and the electronics/entertainment center idea is perfect if you intend to buy. This will give him an opportunity to spend time with you, you will be able to show him you value his help and expertise and he can help you set it up and then you two can share some drinks as you listen to favorite music or watch an equally pleasing dvd/show. It opens the door for casual fun and connection without other expectations. You never know where it could lead
GAG, now is not the time to lose your patience with XH. You have expectations, and trust me I know it's hard not to, but you have let them creep in. You need to step back and be more patient than you ever thought possible. Enjoy the renewed friendship right now for what it is. As we all have learned, if we rush these things they backfire on us big time!!!
You are doing great!! I see a movement toward a reconnection. Friendship first, renew trust first, show him how much fun you are first, show him your changes. Your actions, not words, will show him the way and the romance will follow. If you plant the seeds of desire and unconditional love in his thoughts, his heart will follow. This takes a lot of time, thus patience.
I am with you GAG, I may not post much for a week or so....
(((Hugs)))
Sanderika
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