my h and son gave me necklace

[MrBond]

rysmom,

Rather than spending money on self-help tapes, have you honestly looked into getting professional help for yourself? Your H has been seeing this woman for a long while and if you keep doing things like spilling coffee on her car, that's going to make you look like the psycho. Sorry for that analogy, but it's the truth.

Your son will see that too. In fact, I would be afraid to be with you. You need to get yourself healthy first. Talk to someone about you. Not your marriage. Not your husband. Not the other woman. YOU.

Only you have the power to make yourself well.