Missher, Antonia, Seeking, Lorie, and Cas, thanks for your thoughts,
First of all......Missher, hope you weren't TOO tired today! All the ladies and I REALLY do appreciate you sharing your masculine perspective here! You certainly are not predictable. I rarely expect what I read in your posts. I like your suggestion about asking XH to do something different. You're right. Don't want to be boring and predictable! I am looking for something to suggest that won't seem too much like a date. The first thing I thought of was a consumer electronics show (XH loves electronic gadgets). When XH took his home theater system with him it left me with no receiver, speakers, projection TV......so I have been thinking that I should try to figure out what kind of system I can build. XH has expertise in the audio field and would love to look at new equipment.........I haven't been able to find a local consumer electronics show at our convention center, but maybe XH would just be willing to go shopping with me?..........The other pastimes he likes (theater, listening to live music, movies) are all too much like dates.
Antonia, Seeking, and Lorie, thank you for checking in. Yes, I have to say that it has been a healing experience for me to receive positive responses from H/XH's friends and family. I think that when I left my previous career to try and save my M it spoke volumes to everyone around H. It was pretty clear what I had sacrificed to save my M. Of course that choice was made because I knew that that career had interfered with my personal life for years and would prevent me from having a quality R in the future, with H or someone else.
Cas, yes I agree. I really appreciated that FL BMF seemed to understand that leaving my previous career was not an easy choice for me. Yes, H/XH told me he had talked to FL BMF about me leaving my previous career. No, XH wasn't CC'ed on FL BMF's reply, but he might have been blind copied.
.......so today I e-mailed XH a response to 2 e-mails he sent me on sunday and monday. I told him that FL BMF had replied to my e-mail (he didn't say anything about this). XH replied a bit later and said "Let me know when you're up for a TT lesson! ". I replied "I can play this Thursday at 6pm. Let me know if you want to “give me a lesson” (your words) then, OK? I’ll wear my short plaid skirt and knee socks. ;-)".........then XH wrote "Thursday I am to do something with BMF, however, he has been very inconsistent on making our appointed "dates". So for planning purposes….we'll have to wait till next week."............So no TT game this week folks, but XH continues to be irritated with BMF........so I stirred the pot a bit (my bad!) and said "Why would BMF stand you up? You’ve always been very generous to him."
Even though there have been positives in my situation, I am losing patience with XH. I decided to talk to Jody again (next week) to get her "take" on whether or not what has been happening between XH and me recently might be signs of reconnection and movement toward romance.
I like your suggestion about asking XH to do something different. You're right. Don't want to be boring and predictable! I am looking for something to suggest that won't seem too much like a date. The first thing I thought of was a consumer electronics show (XH loves electronic gadgets). When XH took his home theater system with him it left me with no receiver, speakers, projection TV......so I have been thinking that I should try to figure out what kind of system I can build. XH has expertise in the audio field and would love to look at new equipment.........I haven't been able to find a local consumer electronics show at our convention center, but maybe XH would just be willing to go shopping with me?..........The other pastimes he likes (theater, listening to live music, movies) are all too much like dates.
