You have to play the hand you're dealt Angel.
Every sitch is different.

Kids make a huge difference, when it comes to hard stands versus letting your kids have the benefit of both parents at home.
Trust that God is in control, especially if you pray for your kids, Believe that God wants what's best for them. Sometimes in abusive or addictive sitchs it's best for the kids to be away from that. Other times they're devistated if one parent moves out.

Rely on your intuition and instincts and God's still small voice and NOT act on emotion. The emotional rollercoaster will trip you up sometimes (speaking from experience).

The hardest thing for me sometimes is taking my own damn advice.

Me 53 XW 50
M 18 Years +2
S14 D19
Bomb 10-24-10
Served 1-27-11
Mediate 4-21-11
Civil D Final 6-2-11
No church anullment
"A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."