The way you describe her - rewriting your history, acting like a young woman, suddenly being a person you don't know anymore - may be sympotms of MLC.
In the meantime, I will pass on to you advice from my therapist that helped me greatly:
1. You can only control yourself, not other people, not your wife. Focus on yourself, take care of yourself. 2. Do not do anything on impulse. Keep calm, and I know its so hard to do when your world is crumbling, but it is better than losing your temper, being angry, or having a meltdown.
