Antonia - your male friend sounds like he is no friend at all....I'm ready to socialize with men....but the sex part....I can't see myself doing that casually....actually have hard time thinking about intimacy with someone else at this time lol....
Punkin - my male friend is definitely not romantic material...no spark on my side whatsoever....but good person to hang out with. And about the Polar Bear swim next year...the thought to participate has crossed my mind...
Being - Hope that one day we can meet, that would be nice....and btw you are blessed to have such a large family...6 grand kids wow....you are lucky
I've been "processing" throughout the holidays....and I must say that I'm starting to question if I could ever be happy with H again should he eventually wake-up.....I'm pretty detached now....sometimes I think that I was blind and maybe he always was a selfish je** and I just didn't see it...blinded by love...after all he did this to me once before...why would I want to be with a man like that....he is a damaged selfish person...I know there is the MLC diagnosis...but so what...he still had choices....and he chose to give up our relationship, our friendship, our family.....
Don't know...questioning things...
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I've been "processing" throughout the holidays....and I must say that I'm starting to question if I could ever be happy with H again should he eventually wake-up.....I'm pretty detached now....sometimes I think that I was blind and maybe he always was a selfish je** and I just didn't see it...blinded by love...after all he did this to me once before...why would I want to be with a man like that....he is a damaged selfish person...I know there is the MLC diagnosis...but so what...he still had choices....and he chose to give up our relationship, our friendship, our family.....
Don't know...questioning things...
I would love to be this detached Mila....I think I was once there last year before I let my H come back home...now Im having to detach all over again. I keep saying to myself, why would I want to be with a man like that?
You sound good though! Happy New Year!!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
he is a damaged selfish person...I know there is the MLC diagnosis...but so what...he still had choices....and he chose to give up our relationship, our friendship, our family.....
The MLC diagnosis isn't always a definite. And, even if so, many are aware of their MLC status. We all have choices, some seem to have a default choice ... betray the one who loves you the most. My H also did this before we were married, but it hurt nonetheless. I always wonder why I married him after he hurt me that badly. Who knows? As you say, Mila, blinded by love. I still miss my friendship with H. The man he was did not come back, which is why I still think there is something going on. Oh well! Can't prove it, and don't want to sneak through his computer or cell phone.
I think you will find someone easily, and it will be someone who deserves you because you won't suffer fools gladly again. You've grown through this. As have most of us.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
I guess OW has left town....getting emails from H....
1st - wants me to get ready for pick-up a large garbage bag and garden clippers so he can dispose of his Xmas tree...
2nd - wants the name and phone number of our dentist because he doesn't remember it and also wants me to look up in our old records the date when he was at the dentist's last...
....why does he think that I will continue doing these things for him...?????
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why does he think that I will continue doing these things for him
Maybe because you do. Cut his as* off sweetie.
Oh as for OM, far be it from me to chime in here BUT ya knew I would..
Take your time Mila. It ain't easy is all I can say.
((((Mila)))))
BTW, now that I am dating...can I still borrow the car?
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Journaling - H didn't respond to my email and didn't pick-up the stuff that he wanted this morning...this is starting to be frequent...asks me to do something ASAP and then doesn't pick it up...
Holidays are officially over...back to reality in the morning
Eric - now that you are dating you have better things to do than drive my car...lol
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Fist day back a work...and no word from H...and still didn't pick-up the stuff he wanted yesterday morning...that's out of character that he wouldn't acknowledge my email or wouldn't call that he couldn't pick it up yesterday..but what isn't out of character these days...
Dilema - it's H's B-Day in a few days....should I give him a gift? I'm thinking not...he didn't give me one for my B-Day...but sent me a facebook wish, email wish and a text wish....all in one day
I hope that he doesn't expect me to bake him his favorite b-day cake and invite him over to celebrate....D said that she will take him out for lunch and then will go to his place to spend the evening with him....
I'm thinking to just send him a B-Day email...
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Im thinking that is what I would do too. Just a simple bday wish would let him know that you are thinking about him on his bday. I would do the same.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
