Just read through your thread. My overall observation is that your wife doesn't respect you. Women are generally not attracted to men they do not respect.

You allow her to speak to you and treat you like s***, but worry that you might be too mean in return.

You are keeping your composure very well however, so that is good. My recommendation for you is to learn how to establish strong boundaries. Some resources for doing so, especially for men:

All of the DB/DR material you can get your hands on. Additionally:

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Spellfire aka Mike

"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A