Not only is it time for you to hold your tongue it is also time for you to start to work on changing your self.
If you can get a copy of Controlling People by Patricia Evans get it.
Also go to a forum called Mevac it stands for Men ending verbal Abuse and Control. My wife dropped the sledge hammer on me "telling me she was done" after 20 years of abuse and it woke me up. I've changed a lot and have more work to do. I'm a better father and kinder and gentler person today.
Stop worrying about what she says and does its out of your control. Get the book go to mevac and get to work on you. Your wife has given you a tremendous gift by waking up. Use it regardless of what she does. This is about you.
What did you say that was controlling and hurtful over the holidays?
Learn to Love yourself.
Joe
H:37 W:34 D11,S8,S6 Together 19 years M:10 Bomb:4/09
