I've been trying to. And doing a much better job of it over the past couple of weeks. She is acting so cold toward my family and I think that a big part of it is her Mother's influence so that is frustrating me a lot. But now it's just time. The only thing that is going to let her mind rest is time.
I just get super anxious thinking about the actual divorce. On the one hand I want it to be over so that she can start to deal with the reality of what we are doing but on the other hand I hope that she could slow down and take a step back to really think about what she wants to do. (Maybe she has and this is my denial talking)
But she keeps saying things like I don't love her, I love my version of her... or that we were more like roommates than husband and wife. It's just dark stuff that lets me know where her mind is. Of course she feels like my roommate... she spent the last 6 months completely checking out on me and not letting anything positive register in her mind.
