losing my mind?

[Denver_2010]

HRT - I'm really sorry that things haven't improved for you over the past few weeks. I haven't been on here much longer than you, so I'm probably not the best person to be giving out advice. I will say this though, YOU can NOT change the choices that your wife is making right now. This includes her drinking and her living with EH. All YOU can do is work on YOU.

I read on one of your previous posts, that you are trying to GAL but that motivation is hard to come by. I'm going to go out on a limb here and say something that you may not want to hear. But if you are unmotivated to go live your life, be successful, and be something that you W will miss and want to be with, why would your W ever come back?

Chances are, your W is lost and unhappy, and it sounds like her EH is a real piece of work... in a bad way. Go things that will make YOU someone that will make your W look in the mirror and say, "WTF am I doing here drinking with EH when I am married to HRT?" As many have said on here, the only way to do that really is if you are doing it for yourself though. Go GAL and be happy... with or without your W.

I know that this is easier said than done man. I haven't come close to mastering this idea. But I have found that things with me have gotten better and better each day (for the most part) when I have at least forced myself to try and be focused on me.