Lotus - I took a look at that website you mentioned. My STBX would never go; he would think it's too religion.Christian based. He's Mr. New Ager (Deepak, Eckhart Tolle) and says that we have to learn to live without each other.

It sounds so wonderful and something that possbly would help save our marriage. I would be willing to go without question but w/o his participation it would be futile!

I am still hoping for a happy ending that you had even if I have to go thru the D process unwillingly.

There are some really encouraging stories and words here.

BITS

M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0
T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd)
WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved
Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10
Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11