What next - I'm saying this to myself as much as I'm saying it to you. You have to take your focus off of the M and your W and focus on you right now. That is what DBing focuses on (mod or vets please correct me if I am wrong). Like Eric said, you can't worry about what she is doing. She is going to make her choices whether you like it or not. You have to give her space and work on yourself. None of us that have come to this board are without fault in our M problems. Look at the fault that it your's, acknowledge it, figure out what you can do to fix it, and then do it.

Again, I'm talking to you and ME right now. I have been working on doing this for about 5 weeks. It is easier said than done. But there are plenty of people on here who say that it has done wonders for their lives... whether or not their Ms worked out.

M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce