Drive The Bus, Or Be The Passenger?

[Kemper]

Thanks BA.

Did you ask for transparency right away? I am trying to figure out the best way to bring up the topic. Do I do it the next time she brings up a R discussion, during MC, or just come out and ask?

At this point we have had a few serious R discussions and I don't want every interaction we have to turn to serious talks. I want to go out and have fun together and try to rekindle what we had in the past.

However, I know that at some point we need to sit down and discuss our respective needs. I was thinking that MC would be a good opportunity for that. W has brought up us going to MC but that was it. There hasn't been any action to setup an appointment hence the title of this post.

Additionally, my W has stated that she tried to break it off with OM three times in the past, all unsuccessfully. I told her that I want to know if OM tries to contact her or if she contacts him. She says she broke it off and that she wants to shut the door on that R, but I find it odd that he has not tried to contact her.

I guess this is just the start of the "dance" so to speak.