TAMF's Christmas Miracle?

[Mila]

TAMF - I've been reading along and I hope and pray that your H is being truthful and that the fog has lifted and he is going to put in the hard work. I'm sure that you have read the book "After the Affair"...if not I would suggest it...it may explain what your H is facing and what he will be going through trying to break his addiction to OW...and it is like an addiction and to break it he will need all of your help and support...

That said....I also wanted to tell you that I thought that I was where you are 2x in the last year and half. When he came home last November, we talked, he told me that it's over, he wants to be with me and that they broke up and they won't contact each other again...he even promised that if she contacts him he would tell me, he even sent the OW a letter and he let me read it, not to contact him again...the first week back I asked him "did she contact you?" he said yes....once and he replied to her and then he asked me to give him a week to wind it down that it's hard for both of them....I said OK...when I asked in a week again, he said no more contact....well he left again in January and now I know that he was lying to me the whole time and they were in contact throughout....

Then he wanted to reconcile in May...again, said all the right things, how sorry he was that it happened and that this time it's really over...I didn't let him move back in...wanted to wait and see...and sure enough three weeks later he tells me that he is back in relationship with OW....

I'm telling you this not to discourage you...every situation is different...but keep alert....and try to keep expectations in check.

Wishing you all the best