i get things off of my chest and it feels great then i get coldness back
Maybe stop worrying about getting things off YOUR chest and wait to let her get things off HER CHEST.
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my delimma now is that she is going full speed ahead with the process of divorce. she has all of the information to the lawyer (she told my sister tonight) and now all i am doing is waiting to hear what happens next.
Stop letting the FEAR of divorce drive what you do. She is going to do what SHE wants to do…you buddy must do what YOU want to.
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i offered to give her everything.
How about NOT offering to give her everything and just give HER space.
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i'm just in complete limbo and don't know what to do.
When in doubt DO NOTHING and DETACH.
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should i just give up on my marriage and let it go?
Give up? Hey did the word for better or worse mean something too you? And FTR, you should not give up on YOURSELF. If you still want this M then why give up…that is unless you are afraid.
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I don't want to waste time on someone who has already given up on me.
Have you given up on yourself? I say if you believe in something you fight for it…that is until you no longer believe in it.
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could trust her again
Trust is a choice. Just like fighting for your M…
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We have no children and I am giving her whatever she wants so the process shouldn't have taken this long.
Nothing like FEAR to help one give up everything because they fear fighting for what they believe in.
Look buddy, make a choice on what you want to do and then stick to it. Be true to you and what you want in your life. You want this M, then stop handing everything over to her. Do you think it best that someone reward bad behavior?
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
