I don't know what role I may have played with it in the past, though I believe it is her issue.
What I've found, is that whenever I see a pattern in my H that I'm unhappy with, there's always, always a pattern I'm playing along with it, that is actually helping to sustain and reinforce his part of it.
Anyways, I'd suggest giving more serious thought to what you said - "I don't know what role I may have played with it in the past". [/quote]
FMV, I began, at your suggestion reading "The Dance of Intimacy" by Harriet Lerner. I'm good at self-management, getting better at assertiveness, working on maintaining a better attitude, and boundary setting, but still have trouble seeing how I influence patterns in my M. Maybe I'm being too black and white about mine versus her issues.
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"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
