Thankfully, my W works in a female dominated profession. Actually, if I really sit down and think about it could seem scary. I mean I see a number of WAS's on here who rely on their spouse as their primary means of support.
My wife makes more than I do. Okay, it's only a few thousand more, but she could easily make it on her own with the kids. So that fear isn't what's keeping her with me. I guess you could look at that as a positive.
I think I can relate to your W a bit with respect to the searching for something else. I'm kinda like that especially with jobs, cars, homes etc.
I do disagree with you a bit. I don't necessary feel that I deserved what the OM got. My wife was a saint for 7 months while I was working through my issues. I was not pleasant to be around and she certainly didn't deserve that. I mean I can see why the EA happened. When I was acting the way I did I got so much love, support from my W, but it wasn't enough. I have to live with that every day. That has changed a lot, but I can't sugarcoat the past or deny my role.
I think the only thing I would like my wife is the chance for a good marriage. She's giving me that and much more. But it all comes down to me.
And honestly, I'm not looking for another R, if this does not work out for some reason. I decided a long time ago that if my W died unexpectedly, that it would be hard or even impossible to find that kind of love again. I truly believe that she is my soulmate.
It is interesting, my W has a lot of insight to the situation. The other night we were talking about things and she said, "You know we are both lucky that we are still here and willing to work on things." It kinda struck me a little. I mean a lot of WAWs might throw out, "You are lucky I'm here." But she did acknowledge that I could escape as easily as she could.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
