I can see how my lack of attention, affection, and caring contributed to the A. I am not saying I am 100% at fault but I do own up to my portion of the failures in our M. Yes, the bomb was my wake up call and it came way to late to keep the A from progressing or my W from moving out. In some of our recent conversations my W stated that after the bomb there was nothing that I could have said or done to change the course we have been on for the last 16 months.
Thankfully the R with OM deteriorated and my W reached out to me to discuss the possibility of reconciliation. At first I pushed her away and said I wasn't interested. As I continued to think about reconciliation, us, our family, etc I decided that I didn't want to look back 5, 10, 20 years from now and regret not trying. There are going to be issues in any R so why not try and work on the one I have with my W. W broke it off with OM on New Years Eve.
Since then my W and I have had a few text exchanges and conversations. Nothing overly serious but I have been staying busy and allowing my W to reach out to me. Last night we were talking and I asked if she wanted to do something this week. We decided to go bowling on Wednesday. Today she asked where we were going because she had a gift card to a restaurant near one bowling ally and said we could go eat after bowling.
I am trying to figure out how to proceed. Some have said to let my W pursue me, others have said to just do what I feel is right regardless of if it comes across as pursuing. Any advice or input would be appreciated.
I tried to keep this short and just give a brief update, but if you have questions please ask.
M 33 | W 34 | Kids: S4, S3 M: 5/28/05 Bomb: 8/22/09 EA: 8/1/09 | PA 12/26/09 W L: 10/21/09 M L: 11/16/09 | 12/09 to file SA W & Boys Move Out: 3/14/10
