TAMF's Christmas Miracle?

[ericmsant2]

TAMF,

Are you sitting down? Cause, this ain’t gonna be pleasant but I think it is what YOU need right now.

Did you think this was gonna be easy? Did you think that his WORDS meant that he was over HIS crisis? Did you think that a little love making would bring his as* out of his crisis? Did you think that dinner, time with the girls would change him?

Don’t say NO….cause I know you well enough to know that your answer to the above should be YES…especially if you are honest with yourself. Fu*k being honest with me or anyone else on these damn boards. You had an expectation and YOU know it. You believed HIS WORDS….cause HIS ACTIONS are saying something else.

As a man, when you WANT a women YOU GO AFTER IT. Like a bull after a bone. You don’t waffle – NO you chase it and chase it hard. Look this is a man that KNOWS that you have been with someone else. As a dude, I’d be all over your chit and would have cut the whore (sorry I mean OW) off immediately.

TAMF, your H is still in a crisis. Is all lost? NO F*CKING WAY! Does this mean it is over for YOU? NO F*CKING WAY. Get your big girl panties on and get back on the f*cking horse. And by horse I do not mean the…save your M horse – NO I mean the find who the HELL TAMF really is horse!

REAL HUGE difference in him

I have been telling you this for a while. F*ck the “huge differences in HIM”…look at the differences in YOU!

Also, I am possitive that his MLC started over a year ago

So ya think the crisis is over in a year? You know better than that.

He is misserable today.

He should be he got caught! You know what…YOU SHOULD NOT FEEL BAD FOR HIS CHEATING A**! Sorry, maybe you wanted some hugs and soft chit…not today and not from me. You could do better! And I know it. Damn, if YOU could only see what I see IN YOU!

He has called me at least 4 times already this morning

Hmmm…sounds to me like he is NOW worried….sounds to me like HE is SCARED that HE will need to make a CHOICE. Guess what? NONE OF HIS CHOICES should change or DRIVE YOURS! How many f*cking times am I gonna say…YOU CHOOSE. YOUR LIFE. YOU DECIDE. FTR, I am NOT telling you to quit, to give up, to not stand. ON the contrary, I am telling YOU to STAND FOR WHAT YOU BELIEVE IN! DO YOU LOVE THIS MAN TAMF? Would you walk thru fire for his as*? Would you give your right lung so that he can live? 6 months ain’t chit IMO – nothing. It is a walk in the park.

He asked if I was okay. I shrugged my shoulders and said okay.

He’s lucky he did not ask me….I would have told HIM that I was busy on the phone with the other guy, since he decided not to value his own word, well then I am moving on with what I feel is best for me (and NO TAMF I am not suggesting that you say this).

I told him I am trying to be strong.

STOP TELLING HIM CHIT! SHOW him. Okay, so how do you show him?

What does a strong women do who knows her H is fu*king someone else? FTR, there is NO right or wrong answer here. It is what TAMF, the strong women that she is must do. In short, she must do for HER. In short, she must do what SHE feels she needs to do but do it with NO and I mean NO….I really mean NO…regrets! Until she can, she should stop talking and acting strong!

I said that I need to set a time boundry for myself for how long I am willing to wait until he tells her it is over and if it isn't done by that time, I will go completely dark. No contact until he can prove that it is done.

I wish I could tell YOU just how many times I tried this type of action with my W. Do you think they really give a chit? Do you think that THESE words are all of sudden going to change him? Do you know what this tells me TAMF…..your still afraid. Your still worried about what he gonna say or do. Your still think that this little form of manipulation and or guilt will scare him towards you. I can tell you that IMO, it will not.

You set a boundary for YOU and YOU alone. FTR, the boundary for my STBXW is pretty simple…she gets nothing from me emotionally – NADA, NOTHING. I do not have to say a f*cking word to her…MY ACTIONS are speaking. Guess what, the past few days….especially since I took back my bed room…she seems to be “softer” – GUESS what? I DO NOT GIVE A CHIT. So please TAMF, set the boundary when you really are ready to.

I HAVE to protect myself

YES YOU DO. Hey let me give you a little hint, since I know that he makes more than you. He is F*cked. IF it goes the D route he will get screwed. Alimony, child support, abandonment….yeah he is screwed and don’t think for a second that he does not know this.

Just to beat a dead horse…..did you open the account for YOU….the one in JUST YOUR name? the one that will give you the sense of INDEPENDENCE that you want. Just asking…..

we need to establish what "soon" is so we are clear

“We”,…..no sorry TAMF…YOU need to establish what YOU need for YOU.

While he was saying this, I swear he was all choked up with emotion

He should be chocked up! He is losing YOU and YOU need to realize just how much of a keeper YOU are. I can’t make you feel it – no one can.

In closing I leave you with this…..

Are you smart?

Are you sexy?

Are you funny?

Are you a good partner?

Are you financially responsible?

Are you a good mom?

Are you a good wife?

Do you know how to communicate?

Do you stand for what you believe in?

Can you make a choice and stick with it?

Do you love and love deeply?

Do you believe in yourself?


Answer these questions for YOURSELF!

Oh…and I am not apologizing for the tone of this post. I know you can do better so DO IT!

God Bless,
Eric