WS - Thank you for the post. Is he out of MLC, I don't think so but I do see a REAL HUGE difference in him. The change from 6 months ago is unbelievable. Also, I am possitive that his MLC started over a year ago. He told me he started feeling this way in July/August of 09. The OW came into the picture in March 10.

He is misserable today. He has called me at least 4 times already this morning. He had noticed that I had left my cell at home and offered to bring it to my work (20 minutes away). He just dropped it off. He looked so very sad, I would assume that it is a mirror image of my own face today. He asked if I was okay. I shrugged my shoulders and said okay. I told him I am trying to be strong. He said that he needs me to be cause he is going to have to talk to me constantly in order to get through this.

I said that I need to set a time boundry for myself for how long I am willing to wait until he tells her it is over and if it isn't done by that time, I will go completely dark. No contact until he can prove that it is done.

I know that this may seem like I am trying to control the situation, but I HAVE to protect myself. I cannot continue to go on like this for a long period of time. He told me that he was going to end it last week. He didn't.

He understood and said that he wasn't going to wait. It would be soon.

Soon to him, and soon to me are 2 different things. we need to establish what "soon" is so we are clear.

He just called me again. He said that he was just out driving around. Said that we have a game plan now for our life together and we just need to execute (this is the football/basketball man talking). I like it when he talks like this because it is familiar and it has been a LONG time since I have heard him talk like the take charge athlete/coach that he is. He said that he is going to need me to be strong and be his rock while he goes through this. He will take care of it. he asked if I was with him? I said yes. He replied, "cause I am going to need you like I have never needed anyone in my life".

While he was saying this, I swear he was all choked up with emotion.

TAMF
m:41
xh:41
T: 20
M: 15
D: 16
D: 14
Bomb dropped: 7/3/10
separated: 7/15/10
H moved in to new apt. with OW: 7/1/11
divorced: 8/26/12