Am I piecing? Just can't tell 2...

[Sad_but_happy]

I agree Harrier. Seems you and I are on close to the same path. The difference for me is that my W has been consistent. She does not b**tch at me at all. We do the same thing every night... Wine and a movie and some TV by the fire, go to bed the same time, read together, etc. This consistency is nice because it helps me to measure where we are as a couple. We will do the same thing tonight and I get to look forward to it. No fighting or stress, just enjoying one another.

I KNOW putting her arm around me was a big step for her. She didn't have to do it. We had already been settled in for about 5 minutes so she had to think about it before finally deciding to go ahead and do it.

I have seen nothing but forward progress for weeks. Slow by my standards but definitely forward. I can wait for her since I do love her.

She talks about us needing to get out to dinner more, going on vacations together. Enjoying each other when the kids are older, etc.

The only time I get angry is when I think of her feelings for OM. Even if they are fading. I hate that she felt that for someone else even for a moment. Fantasizing life with him. But then I think of their short 2-3 month relationship in secrecy and feel sad that she lowered herself in that way. She gave in and was weak and did something that I consider dirty. She not only changed who she was, she changed who she thought she was. And she changed who I thought she was.

But here we are, starting to understand for the first time in 20 years what it takes to make a M work.

Don't worry about hijacking. You are welcome to vent and share anytime!