BTW, no 2x4 from me. Personally, I want to call him a few names that I cannot post here.
Having said this, one of the hardest realization that we need to come to is the acceptance that WE cannot control another. That we are NOT responsible for the actions of another. That we (and here is the kicker) DO MATTER. That our wholeness, our sanity, our love, our spirit IS NOT control or determined by another but really only by US.
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Well, I have figured out a few things this weekend....
One~ never hold in the anger or it will just explode at some point.
two~ I am jealous that my H chooses the OW over doing something I Need. Need to work on that.
“Figuring out” and “doing something about” are TWO different things… the later is harder to do! So you’ve done the first step…what are gonna do for the second step?
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Once again HE was in control.
AND WHO gives him control? Psst….hint…It ain’t me and it ain’t him…and it ain’t the milk man…nor is it anyone that posts here. So who give him control over YOU?
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I just really needed to get it all out and let him know how angry I was at him for EVERYTHING he did to me and our family.
Glad you feel better. Oh…when you finally stop being a victim, you’ll feel better. He did what he did, continues to do what he does, he is in control right now…that is until someone (answer question above) takes control back.
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I know i shouldnt have done it
Just wondering but WHY shouldn’t you have done it? The answer is for YOU not me.
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I forgot to mention that at midnight NYE, my H sent me a happy new year text,
My W sent me one early on new years day as I was driving back home. Go figure. I call this batchit MLC crazy – guess what…I know I’m not crazy.
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He came to the bday party yesterday and it was like nothing happened
So what does this ^^^^ tell you? Guess who is more detached? You or HIM? Hmmm……think about that and please answer who give him control over YOU.
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
